Be Not Afraid of Love: Lessons on Fear, Intimacy and Connection

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Zhu translates the thought-provoking, text-based work they have become known for on Instagram into a book filled with wisdom, imagination, and tips for healing. Zhu’s candid storytelling, both/ands and all, underscores an uncomfortable but deeply human truth: Healing from abuse is a complicated, nonlinear process. a lot of the things they wrote really resonated with me and were things that i really connected to because i had also had similar thoughts.

And I think we saw that during the pandemic — how there was so much grief and some of it actually went unprocessed, without support, came out as violence in pain and projection. In a world dominated by performances that encourage us to portray ourselves as our most joyful, we begin to assume that everyone is free of grief. I finally gave myself permission to miss him as all the joyful, loving, painful, and violent memories played out before me.

Mimi's powerful and provocative words will guide and inspire readers to lean into love with softness.

They are afraid that they’ll have nothing left to say after this book (they’ve already proven themself wrong, considering they’re currently working on another book). What happens when I am no longer embarrassed of my grief, and I am surrounded by humans, plants, and animals who hold me while I cry? Durante o período de teste, é possível usufruir de todos os benefícios da assinatura de maneira gratuita. It was pivotal to chant out loud so that her spirit could hear us, and the louder and more repetitive we were, the better. Not Afraid of Love" is an unreleased song by Ariana Grande that was intended for her sophomore album, My Everything.Haines closely studies the iterations of each reaction, explaining that “these protective responses are well beyond our conscious capacity to control them. What distinguishes their writing, Instagram affirmations and essays alike, is their honesty and humility. The binaries of good and evil categorize our difficult feelings as evil, and our happy feelings as good. think it was just a case of reading too many 5 star reviews ahead of time and going into it w really high expectations.

Even though death is inevitable, and loss occurs every day, it seems that we are less equipped to deal with it than ever. When I finally grieved my relationship with X, I was able to acknowledge that my capacity for tenderness did not die along with our union; I just needed to be redirected toward myself. For example, Zhu tells me their parents were deeply hurt when they got tattoos — an experience I shared to a T with my own Chinese mother who, upon discovering the upside-down triangle on my upper right arm, told me I had damaged the body she gave me.Zhu’s generosity to delve into their own life and circumstance to speak to the necessity of investing in love, in finding it in oneself, is such a tender and ripe offering. Mimi Zhu’s Be Not Afraid of Love is the kind of book that is effused with such candor and care that the words themselves become a salve. I liked their honesty about the pain of their abusive relationship and the wide range of emotions they experienced after it.

There is much to learn from swimming in the deep shades of our grief, and we will emerge from it basking in the sun. The book is part memoir, part essay collection, and part spiritual guide, a rumination on healing and Zhu’s journey to rediscover what it means to give and receive love. Dancing and celebrating, eating with and feeding queer people of color in this city has nourished me,” Zhu says. Don’t be afraid to let go of your fears and step forward into relationships and commitments, even those that don’t promise forever, because as humans, forever is a lot to promise.And never treating anyone like they're disposable, and understanding how complicated we all are as people. It is not surprising that in the Anthropocene, human beings are obsessed with inventing technologies to achieve immunity to both sadness and death.